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I expected more from Christians…

“I expected more from Christians….”, she told me today as she explained how work was going.  A co-worker of hers had a stroke and now the company, run by Christians, had just written the co-worker off, giving the position to the lady I was now speaking with.   She was struggling with some major disappointment in the character of those whom she expected more of.   I can understand where she was coming from.  I’d be struggling with the same.

I don’t need to ask if you’ve experienced something similar.    Get in line.   Story after story can sing the same song over and over.  This blog is not to join in the rant.  It’s not to defend, but it is to pose a question:

Have you ever been hurt by someone who called themselves a Christian?

Or maybe this is a better question:

Have you ever been hurt by another human?

I’m not sure why we, myself included, place higher expectations on those who claim to have a faith in God.   Maybe because we believe Christians should “know better”?   I’m not sure.

I can say that its a dangerous trap to find ourselves being too hard on another Christian…. or more accurately, another human being.  God actually tells us what He will do in return for our accusations, no matter how correct they are.

Don’t pick on people, jump on their failures, criticize their faults— unless, of course, you want the same treatment. Don’t condemn those who are down; that hardness can boomerang. Be easy on people; you’ll find life a lot easier. (Luke 6:37 The Message)

Another version states it more familiar: Don’t judge and you won’t be judged.

The hard part is when we feel justified to do so….

When we’ve been hurt, disappointed, backstabbed, betrayed…. its rises up in us a sense of injustice.   We know its wrong.  We know that we are being mistreated.   A it’s worse when we see it happening to someone we care about.

What do you do with those emotions?

I think we need to come back down to reality that maybe we’re expecting too much out those who are fallen?   How can any of us measure up to each other’s varying expectations?  How can I be sure I haven’t completely hurt or offended someone in my lifetime?

I can’t.  And neither can you.

The challenge is to do what Jesus does for us over and over again: forgive.

I know you may not have wanted to hear that.  I know I sure didn’t when I was struggling with some major hurt I went through years ago with a fellow believer who I looked up to.  But it’s the only option that will get us anywhere.

The alternative is to allow offense to dig deep into the heart, causing greater deception of why our situation is “different” and why we are justified to judge.   You can then be guaranteed the same treatment.

If you’re reading this and you’ve been hurt by someone “Christian” and it has negatively impacted your life, can I apologize to you on behalf of the Christian community?  We’re good, but we’re not all that great at times. We’re trying.  We fail.  We clearly need our Savior.

If you’re reading this and I have ever hurt you, I can honestly say I probably did it in pure ignorance.  I’m so sorry.  I’m a shmuck sometimes.  I promise, I don’t wake up in the morning strategizing who I’m going to hurt today.   I’m hoping you can see past my cluelessness and forgive me.

We need to come to a place where we chose to let go.   We need to do as the Word tells us to do;

Be kind to one another, tender-hearted, forgiving each other, just as God in Christ also has forgiven you. (Ephesians 4:32)

Who can we let off the hook today?   Wouldn’t we be glad if someone did that for us?

Categories: relationships
  1. May 16, 2011 at 5:15 pm

    Hi good write up Connie: A friend said once — this came from an elderly man — who said: he learned 2 things in life — Walk in Forgiveness – and never Attack, and never Defend: walk in love.
    We had a good trip to Randy and Sharon’s – little Olivia is funny, cute and very lively — there are direct flights that go from Calgary to Windsor on West Jet — very handy. Just in case??

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